You’re busy. I get it. I’m busy too. In fact, I don’t think I know anyone who is NOT busy.
But do yourself a favor, love… Stop making “busy” your identity.
I meet women all the time who desperately want to be free of emotional eating, negative mindset and lack of motivation. I talk to women who hate their jobs, have dreams of being their own boss or just want to have a buffer in their budget… but they are too “busy” to take action.
It breaks my heart. every. time.
So can we just take a moment to look at this realistically?
You may work a full-time job like me. So that’s 8 hours of your day. If you commute, that might be another 2 hours of your day. When you get home from work, you have time with the fam – dinner, homework, activities and what-not. That’s about 2 more hours of your day. And sleep! Sleep is important, so let’s give yourself 7 hours sleep. That’s a total of 19 hours in a 24 hour day. Great!
What are you doing with the other 5 hours?
…vegging out on the couch
The truth is, we make time for whatever we decide is a priority. If you want to change your life, lose weight, start a business, the only reason you are not doing it right now is because it’s not a priority.
Instead of saying, “I’m too busy” try saying, “I’m not worth it” and see how that feels. Can you face yourself in the mirror and without flinching, tell yourself that you are not worth 30 minutes a day to take care of your body through exercise? Can you stand there and complain about your boss but out of the same mouth say that you can’t prioritize a few hours a day to pursue your dream of freedom?
I know that may sting a bit.
But friend, it’s the dang truth!! If nothing changes, nothing changes. The only thing between you and what you want is YOU. I say this with all the LOVE, because as I told you… I’m BUSY TOO! But the difference is that I decided that I am worthy of the time to care for my body (you can’t pour from an empty cup). I decided that I can’t count on an employer to secure my future – my freedom. I want to sit in the driver’s seat (with God at the wheel), and determine the path of my life.
Here’s a few tips to find space in your busy day:
1. Grow on the go. Want to learn a new skill or expand your understanding of business? Podcasts and audio books are GOLD! Maximize your time on the commute, waiting in the carpool lines, or while you’re getting ready in the morning. Make personal development a non-negotiable part of your day and you will find your mindset improve dramatically.
2. Turn off notifications. I am the worst, when it comes to getting distracted by the tyranny of the urgent. I have turned off all notifications on my phone, except for text. I also set my phone to do not disturb when I need to spend concentrated time on a project. Don’t worry, you can set your phone to allow calls and messages from those you designate, and still block out all the others. Protect your time!
3. Get an accountability partner. There is power is sharing your goals with a partner and asking them to hold you accountable. Maybe it’s a friend who will start a new workout program with you or someone who is also starting a new business. Find someone with similar goals and MORE self-discipline than you. You want to be called higher, not comforted for staying stuck.
4. Focus on ONE thing. I love checklists. In fact, I often have them scattered all over the house. But if you really want to get shiz done, you need to focus on ONE thing. One thing that will make everything else either easier or not necessary at all. This will take some thought, which will take some time. But if you don’t know THE most important thing you can do each day in order to be successful, you surely have little hope of achieving it. Start your day with blocking out time for your One Thing.
5. Stay consistent. Whether you have 5 hours or 5 minutes, success is always built upon incremental progress made consistently over time. It may feel like you are moving at a snail’s pace, but if you set your goals to do those small things every day, CONSISTENTLY, you will see a compound effect.
Above all else, remember that life is a journey, not a destination. We have seasons of growth and seasons when our priorities shift. Give yourself some grace and connect with like-minded people who will ask you the tough questions and help you get and stay on the right path. We are #bettertogether!