If you are following my health and fitness posts, you may have seen my post last week about my husband progressing to the grand finale of the Beachbody Challenge competition.
It’s an amazing platform for people to share their life transformation stories and inspire others to take the brave first step. We are OVER THE MOON excited to even be a part of the process and abundantly grateful for the opportunity. In our minds, having our health back is the real prize, so all the rest is just the icing on the cake!
Last week, we received the instructions for preparing for the promo video that will be produced and posted online for votes the week of June 3rd (mark your calendars!). There was a pretty long wish list of items they’d like us to send in… requiring me to search back through a couple of years of videos and pictures.
This trip down memory lane brought to light how much our health has been intertwined with the quality of our relationship. It’s amazing how feeling healthy and fit affects attitude and mindset. We have found so much more joy in our lives now that we don’t carry around the brain fog of junk food and poor habits. Looking back and see how far we’ve come, gave me some new insight to the future which I think can be applied in any relationship.
Here are 3 ways you can improve your health and your marriage:
1. Schedule a play date. That’s right… do something fun and playful together. In our house, I am the task-oriented workaholic, so sometimes Phil has to “sternly request” me to come have fun with him. I so need that balance in my life- for my own emotional and mental health. If you don’t have that in your relationship, then you be the one to do it. It doesn’t have to be anything complicated or expensive. It might just be a frisbee toss in the back yard or a bike ride around the block. We even have fun just taking a mid-day drive to grab an iced coffee. Schedule F-U-N. and provide a space free of stress.
2. Cook meals together. Food is such an important part of life… right? When you are striving to live a healthy life, your food choices need to be more intentional. I’m not always good with this, but I do try to plan our meals for the week and we shop together. Allowing each person to have a say in what you cook is important. Spending time in the kitchen together can be a great time to connect through conversation. Not only do you have the opportunity to work as a team while you prepare your food, but you can use the time to just enjoy the chat. Again, it doesn’t have to be a deep, life-changing conversation. Just getting caught up on what’s going on with you work, family, plans for the coming week – or even your favorite TV show.
3. Sweat every day. I can’t tell you how much working out together has created a closer bond between us over the last few years. It’s just 30 minutes a day – first thing in the morning -where we are both working towards a similar goal. Emphasis on WORKING. We share that same focus, and it something that is not emotionally attached – it’s just movement and sweat. Which, by the way, is pretty sexy. To know that we are both working on creating our best bodies and that we get to delight in each other’s progress, is a game-changer, my friend.
When you feel good about the skin you’re in, you’re more open to give and receive love and affection with your spouse. Sure, we loved each other and 220 and 315 pounds. But now, we have an even deeper connection because we choose to care about our quality of life and the possibility of living even longer lives together.