Self-care is such a buzz word these days. I’m kind of glad though, because… it’s such a gift!!
In my mentorship groups, I talk a lot about the importance of taking time out for yourself.
Most of the women I work with fall into one of two categories when it comes to self-care:
- It’s a non-negotiable that is planned and anticipated on a regular basis
- It’s non-existent because of so many demand to care for everyone but yourself
If you’re in the latter group, totally no judgement here, girlie! I have been there too. Believe me, I know the struggle is REAL. It’s not so easy to just announce to the fam that you’re claiming “me time” amidst a house full of dirty dishes, soccer games, homework, work commitments and the like. In fact, the majority of women I work with fall into the second category.
I’m not sure at what point we bought into the idea that it was unnecessary or selfish to spend time (even if not money) on ourselves.
You can’t pour from an empty cup!
You know the ol’ airplane safety talk… “Should the oxygen masks deploy during flight, please secure your own mask FIRST before assisting others.” There’s a reason for that! You cannot serve others well if you are not well cared for yourself.
You must preserve yourself, even if only so you can serve others.
Here are three of my favorite ways to refresh and refill my tank:
- Take a hot bath … ALONE. Have the hubby or a friend take the kids for 30 minutes so you can just enjoy soaking in a bubbly tub. Light some candles. Put on some relaxing music. Grab a nice exfoliating scrub or mask and CHILL THE HECK OUT.
- Seriously. If you have little ones or even older kids that keep you from getting a good night’s sleep, as someone to take them off your hands for a few hours and get some shuteye. Offer to return the favor. You would be amazed and how restorative a nap can be.
- Schedule a time each day to move your body. It doesn’t have to be a big commitment like packing a gym bag and driving to the gym and dealing with the crowds (unless you like that). It could be as simple as walking the dog for 20-30 minutes or doing a streaming workout in your basement. You may not even feel like exercising, but I promise that once you are 5 minutes into it, those endorphins kick in and you will feel so much better about yourself.
- Get alone. It doesn’t matter if you’re an introvert or an extrovert, we all benefit from time alone to think, ponder, pray, and just enjoy silence. This may look like getting up 30 minutes earlier than everyone else in the house, or maybe it’s an afternoon run in the neighborhood. You could even get in the car and crank up your favorite worship music and just DRIVE.
Whatever it is you choose, let it be something that feels good. Girl, you NEED this! If not for yourself, for your family. When you are rested, peaceful and calm, everyone benefits.